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This Week in Queer Web Content // April 10, 2013

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The Queer Heterosexual?

There is a lot of discussion in the GLBTTQ communities about who is actually part of the “queer” community. Is it only people who sleep with those of the same gender? Does it include trans folks? Where are the lines drawn for queer? 

At PTS, we see queer as those who fall outside heteronormativity. Heteronormativity is a term used to describe the marginalization of lifestyles that do not conform to societies expectation of congruity between physical sex and gender. Instances of this include the idea that people fall into two distinct categories of sex ( HYPERLINK “http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Male” \o “Male” male and  HYPERLINK “http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Female” \o “Female” female) or gender (man and woman), that sexual and marital relations are “normal” only between people of different sexes and only with one committed/married partner at a time, and that each sex has certain “normal” roles in life. The hetero-normative view is that physical  HYPERLINK “http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sex” \o “Sex” sex,  HYPERLINK “http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gender_identity” \o “Gender identity” gender identity, and  HYPERLINK “http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gender_role” \o “Gender role” gender expression should always align to either all- HYPERLINK “http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Male” \o “Male” male or all- HYPERLINK “http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Female” \o “Female” female  HYPERLINK “http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cultural_norm” \o “Cultural norm” cultural norms. In the workshops that I facilitate on queer inclusivity, I ask the question: can someone be heterosexual and queer? This may be controversial, but I definitely think it is possible to be both heterosexual and queer!

In the time I’ve worked at PTS, and in other community work that I’ve done, I’ve met people that, despite only being attracted to people of the same gender, were very queer. Some were children of GLBTTQ parents, others were community advocates, and many more rejected the other tenants of heternormativity, including having only one partner, getting married, having children, and having only vanilla sex (not that those are bad relationship styles if they work for you). 

Recognizing that the queer community is about our shared oppressions and living outside of a heteronormative model could work to further our rights and community. Being queer involves recognizing that everyone has a sexual orientation, a gender identity, varied sexual identities and preferred relationship styles and that any assumptions of how those look harms us all.

So let me propose a few criteria for being queer:

1) Challenging heteronormativity in your gender, sexual orientation or identity and/or relationship style.

2) Being (or at least desiring to be) active within a queer community.

3) Experiencing some form of homophobia, biphobia, transphobia or queerphobia.

I think there are many people who fit into those parts that are heterosexual. To all those heterosexuals who are queer and also help with PTS, I salute you.

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–Jade Pichette

Education Programs Coordinator, PTS

education@ptsottawa.org

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Introduction to Shame and Sexuality

Dear beloved avid readers, supporters, and general inquirers,

My name is Joshua Hummel and I have been asked by PTS Executive Assistant Kayla Miller to create a new workshop called Shame & Sexuality for September of 2012. The new workshop will focus on the two core concepts that are indicated by the workshop’s name. It will consist of eight sessions that are two hours in length and each session will place emphasis on a particular topic on shame as it relates to sexuality. While the project is currently in its preliminary stages as I figure out the most important topics that need to be covered in each session, Kayla and I have agreed upon an initial five:

* Shame & Orientation

* Shame & Sexual Activities

* Shame & Consent

* Shame & Non-Conformity

* Shame & Expression of One’s Identity

These initial five topics may be subject to change as they are debated and scrutinized. However, those who are considering whether or not to take this workshop when it is finalized can expect some elements that are certain to be present in the workshop. The workshop will mostly be approached from a social and psychological angle with contributions from other related disciplines. The workshop is going to be professional and research-based while simultaneously interactive, explorative, and fun. The goal of the workshop is to be informative and also self-fulfilling. Individuals who take the workshop will learn about research conducted on each topic and they will also be exposed to philosophical debate and general conversation as part of the interactive exercises in Shame & Sexuality. The atmosphere will be intellectually stimulating while also being light, funny, co-operative, and group oriented. Members will be encouraged to make friends and contribute to the discussions as they occur but must remain respectful and considerate to others at all times.

If anyone is interested in helping me with this project they are welcome to contact me at jjjosh_hummelll@live.com

I am looking for creative, outgoing, fun, and intelligent collaborators who are passionate about PTS and professionalism.

Cheers.

— Joshua Hummel, PTS Volunteer

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